Without give away names, or to much detail I would like to explain. Like, I have done before.
Here, I am sitting down to lunch with a friend and someone special. My friend wasn't hungry so they didn't get anything, but my special someone and I were so we ordered, not two minutes after I sat down and started to eat, my friend who was sitting at another table close by, was asked respectful to move to a different table/seat. As the table they were at was a table that a disabled elderly lady liked sit at when then came in at the same time everyday, my friend respectful said of course no problem, which it was no problem at all.
And we continued to eat and then proceeded to leave the restaurant, but after we three leave, I proceeded to ask what happened or why? Which lead to an arguement I wasn't expecting at all; all I was doing was asking a question and responding by stating an opinion about the situation, which is in turn why I am upset and writing. Anyways, my friend told me what was said, and that it was respectful, which in turn lead me to say that it would also have been respectful for them to have sat somewhere else when you were already sitting down. My friend then proceeded to yell at me and throw down my throat that it was the respectful thing to do, And that if they were disabled, they would have liked to be treated the same way, I am not or was not saying that it wasn't respectful what they did at all and I will go on to say that if it had been me and not my friend I would have gladly given up my seat or table to someone respectful asking to sit there, my issue is that my friend did not hear me out all that mattered was their opinion not mine, I proceeded to try and say to my friend again that although everything was said and done respectfully fact of the matter is they could have respectfully sat somewhere else temporarily until my friend either got up from the table or left.
The problem I have with people is the fact that my opinions although I always consider my opinions good. People on the other hand take anything I say whether opinion or not they take it literal and every time what I say is not good, most of the time even though people don't say it, I feel it's the way they say certain things, that has me saying, So, what your saying to me is this "I'M WRONG AND YOU'RE RIGHT." Is that it. I'm so tired of being told that I'm wrong or what I'm saying is bad, no matter what I say to my friend or how I say it to them, I'm Wrong, what I say is bad, and they're right, like any time I open my mouth, it's almost like they're telling me STOP, your words are wrong and I don't care what you say because all that matters is what I have to say, it's almost like everyday I waste my time trying to state opinions because in turn no one wants to hear what I have to say.
The thing is, whether my friend knows it or not I have a voice and it's beautiful and I love hearing what it has to say about things, and with this issue on hand I'll say something for sure, and tell my friend how I really feel. You're right in some ways that it was all respectful, but I am also right in stating that it would have also been respectful of the elderly disabled lady and her husband to have waited until we left the restaurant to sit at the exact table that you were currently occupying.
Personally, it bothers me when I am misunderstood and sometimes not even being heard. I have written before about not Being Heard, this time I write about being misunderstood. It hurts to try and determine what day is a good day to speak out and what day isn't.
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Some people, might say I am making way to big a deal about the restaurant thing, problem is if you hear me out, you'll understand that problem isn't what happened at the restaurant, but what happened after when we left, when my friend didn't let me have an opinion or at least even try and hear me out before raising their voice like I am some kind of child. I'm not, and so I expect the same respect everyone else gets when speaking out an opinion, like BEING HEARD AND UNDERSTOOD.
I realize that at least one person other than myself, probably has something similar and well I guess I want that person where ever they are to know they have a voice, too. It's just not everyone wants to hear it, but I will tell you this, whoever the other person is, whether someone accepts your opinion or not you have a right to yourself to let it be heard, maybe your friend won't listen to it, but I'm here.
And that's why I put this out here, you have a voice and right now my friend will read this and maybe they'll accept it, maybe they won't. All that matters to me is that I'm heard by someone if not the one person that should hear it.
I don't care about an issue that happened at a restaurant, that happened several hours ago, what matters is that my friend understands that not every opinion that comes from their mouth is okay to say, because your not always right and you're not perfect either so stop acting like you are, because I have, had just about enough of you telling me I'm wrong when I haven't done or said anything nearly as wrong or as bad as you have, so stop acting like you're always right and I am always wrong and that you're the victim every single time I open my mouth, I say the things I say because it's the truth and because I'm tired of holding onto the terrible lies that come with holding in the truth. So, there I'm not perfect and neither are you FRIEND. Keep up the way you treat me and someday we just might not be...
